
In our pursuit of self-improvement and spiritual growth, we often find ourselves aspiring to become like someone else. We look up to saints, gurus, or role models and aim to embody their qualities. While these aspirations can inspire us, they can also create an endless chase—a chase that breeds friction and inner struggle. The paradox is that in our quest to become, we often lose sight of the most essential state of being: simply being present in the moment.
The Problem with Chasing
When we strive to become something or someone, we unconsciously create a gap between who we are now and who we wish to be. This gap fosters resistance, frustration, and dissatisfaction. It’s as though we are running on a treadmill, constantly moving but never truly arriving. This battle against ourselves consumes our energy and prevents us from flowing naturally with life.
Consider this example: Imagine a river flowing effortlessly towards the ocean. If we try to block or redirect the flow of water, we create turbulence. Similarly, when we resist our present emotions or try to force ourselves into a different state, we disrupt our inner flow.
Emotions in Motion: Witness, Don’t Resist
Emotions are like waves—they come and go. The word "emotion" itself suggests motion. However, emotions tend to linger when we resist them or try to suppress them. The key to emotional freedom is to witness your emotions without judgment or resistance.
For instance, let’s say you’re feeling angry. Instead of resisting the anger or trying to push it away, simply observe it. Acknowledge that anger is present. Notice how it feels in your body—the heat, the tension, the urge to react. By witnessing your anger without resistance, you allow it to move through you. The emotion naturally dissipates when it’s not met with resistance.
Here’s a simple analogy: Imagine you’re holding a beach ball underwater. The more you push it down, the more forcefully it will bounce back up. But if you let go and allow it to float, it will find its natural place on the surface. Similarly, when we stop resisting our emotions, they rise, flow, and eventually leave.
The Role of Intent and Awareness
Intent plays a powerful role in our inner journey. When you hold the intent to be present and accept your current state, divine intervention often happens naturally. Energy flows in the direction of your intent. If your intent is to be at peace with your emotions, your energy will align with that peace.
Let’s consider another example: Imagine you’re walking through a dense forest with no clear path. If you’re focused solely on finding a way out, you may miss the beauty around you—the rustling leaves, the chirping birds, the fresh scent of nature. But if you stay present and trust the process, you’ll notice paths appearing naturally. Similarly, in life, when you stay present and trust your inner flow, clarity and peace emerge effortlessly.
Practical Steps to "Just Be"
Here are some practical steps to help you embrace the present moment without resistance:
Pause and Breathe: When you feel overwhelmed by emotions, take a moment to pause. Breathe deeply and bring your attention to the present moment.
Acknowledge Your Emotions: Identify what you’re feeling without judgment. Whether it’s anger, sadness, joy, or fear, simply name the emotion.
Witness Without Resistance: Allow the emotion to be there. Notice its sensations in your body. Avoid the urge to push it away or analyze it.
Set an Intent: Hold the intent to be at peace with your current state. Trust that your energy will align with this intent.
Trust the Flow: Remind yourself that emotions are temporary. Just like waves in the ocean, they rise and fall. Trust that they will pass.
Letting Go of the Need to Become
The desire to become something else often stems from a sense of inadequacy. We believe that we’re not enough as we are. But the truth is, we are already complete. The journey is not about becoming someone else but about rediscovering our true essence.
Here’s a beautiful phrase to remember: “You are not a human becoming; you are a human being.” The more you embrace the present moment, the more you connect with your true self.
In conclusion, let go of the chase. Stop trying to become and simply be. Bring awareness to your emotions and accept them without resistance. When you do this, you’ll find that life flows effortlessly, and you experience a profound sense of peace and freedom. Just be—and watch how life unfolds naturally.
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