The Dance of Giving and Receiving: A Journey of Love and Balance

Every culture has its own set of laws to maintain order, and similarly, the universe operates on certain principles to sustain harmony. Among these is the "Law of Reciprocation," a cosmic balance that governs the flow of giving and receiving. When this rhythm is disturbed, the consequences can ripple through our lives, creating disharmony and emotional turmoil.

I’d like to share a deeply personal story to illustrate the importance of this universal law.

As the fourth daughter in a traditional Indian family, I always felt like I wasn’t truly welcomed by my mother and grandmother. This sense of rejection shaped my early years, pushing me to seek worthiness by supporting my mother in household chores and showering love on my siblings, even though my mother never asked for it. Her focus was always on our studies, yet I found myself drawn to helping, perhaps as a silent plea for the love I felt was missing.

This longing for love, coupled with the constant rejection I perceived, rooted itself deeply within me. To prove my existence, I unconsciously chose to give more and more love to my family, hoping to fill the void that rejection had left behind. However, in my quest to be worthy, I unknowingly blocked myself from receiving love in return. My ego grew, fueled by anger and a desperate need for validation, but my heart remained closed to the love that others might have offered me.

This imbalance began to take a toll on my health—both physical and mental. The more I gave, the more rigid I became, shutting out the very thing I craved. My relationships with others, particularly with the opposite sex, suffered as well, as I carried the burden of unhealed wounds, unresolved anger, and a closed heart.

At one point, the suffocation became so overwhelming that I considered ending my life. But that dark moment also sparked a realization within me: I couldn’t continue living like this. Something had to change.

This marked the beginning of my spiritual journey, where I slowly came to understand the "Law of Reciprocation." I realized that giving without receiving was creating an imbalance in my life, one that was unsustainable. My ego had to be set aside so that I could learn to receive love as freely as I gave it. I began to see the role that rejection and love had played in shaping my path, and I started to open myself up to receiving love from other sources, not just the one I had been banging on all my life.

Now, I strive to live in harmony with this law, giving with all my heart while also being open to receiving with humility. I’ve learned that balance is the key—whether in relationships, in self-love, or in our spiritual journey.

Here are a few insights that may help others on this path:

Give & Receive

1. Don’t Depend Solely on Receiving: Relying only on others to fill your emotional needs can make you mentally dependent, much like a parasite that drains the life force from others.

2. Avoid Giving from Ego: When giving is motivated by ego rather than love, it disrupts the natural flow of reciprocity and creates imbalance.

3. Don’t Beg for Love: If one source of love isn’t open to you, don’t keep banging on that door. Instead, open yourself to other sources that are willing to give, and receive with humility.

4. Balance Giving and Receiving: True harmony comes from the graceful exchange of giving and taking, without keeping score or comparing.

5. Self-Love Attracts Love: When you cultivate love within yourself, it naturally attracts love from others.

6. Give Without Attachment: When you give, do so freely, without expecting anything in return. This opens the door for receiving in ways you might not expect.

7. Connect with a Higher Source: To give infinitely, seek a deeper connection with the higher source of love and life itself.

   
   

"In the dance of giving and receiving, we find the rhythm of life. Only by embracing both with humility and love can we truly experience the joy of existence."

Understanding the law of reciprocation has been a transformative journey for me. It’s taught me that life is not just about giving or receiving but finding balance and harmony in both. This balance has allowed me to step into a space where I can offer love more freely, support others without ego, and live a life that feels aligned with my true essence.